Then he moves on from it, and I'm stuck with this itchy feeling that we haven't really solved it. Perhaps the reason is why your partner dont want to talk is because for your partner it is not a issues as much as it is for you. What will realistically happen if the issues is not resolved?
And if I bring it up later again, it really makes it seem like I'm being difficult and exaggerating. Then you need to evaluate if the issue you are about is truly important. Perhaps your partner have already figured that out and already dismissed the issue.
There is no rule that say your partner must conform to your habits, they have their own and you choose them and love them as partners with those habits.
Lastly you might change emphasis to the idea of why it bothers you, and not so much what bothers you.
If the consequences make sense to them then they would want to hear more.
Otherwise send them a email to allow them to look at it in their own suitable time and mood, to be able to articulate the real issue.
Often people avoid issues because they feel you do no effort to understand them and always only focus on your own side of matters and insist to be right. I'm sure if your house is on fire both would want to talk about it very quickly because it is a problem both can agree on.
But if the towel in the bathroom is wet, you might have a hard time getting your partner to understand the logic of that problem, then fixing it yourself might be the quickest solution if it is that important to you.
Misunderstandings like the one that led to our fight occur because people tend to be naïve realists. However, one of the most enduring contributions of social psychology is the understanding that two people can interpret the same social interaction in very different ways, based on their own personal knowledge and experiences (Asch, 1952).
and everything is not my business, and not my fault. The pillowcase might just be a symptom of deeper underlying problems in a relationship, for instance where one partner thinks it's highly amusing to play tricks and make a joke of the other, and the other is at their wit's end because of it. Othrws he z very caring persn bt i just fail to deal wd his uncertain or nytym can get angry mood..help Great tips!
If my sweetheart is having a problem, it is up to him if he shares it or not. I also read somewhere years ago, that the best way to talk to a man was when is is also doing something else, like working on the car. For me, putting myself in other's shoes worked a lot.
I thought my husband had taken my pillowcase as a joke. These different pieces of knowledge led us to interpret the same conversation in very different ways. In close relationships there will inevitably be times when our personal experiences lead us to interpret interactions differently than our partners.
These interpretations may be due to chronic differences in culture or the way we were raised.