Ever tried to have a conversation with someone or do something where your mind is elsewhere, or you’re constantly looking over your shoulder, or evaluating and analysing things?
Your mind isn’t where it’s supposed to be – in the present.
Surfing through dating and relationships will leave you at a loss.
Be satisfied with and value you, so that you can relax into your interactions instead of looking over your shoulder. Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.
Maybe the man you’re dating right now is spending a lot of time with you, and showing his interest but he won’t actually pull the trigger on commitment.
That and that future they keep considering and stalling decisions about, catches up with them and becomes the present, and then they dodge that too. If you’re asking yourself if you can do better than a relationship that isn’t mutually fulfilling and lacks love, care, trust, and respect as well as shared values and other landmarks? If you’re asking if you can do better and find someone who is more satisfying on secondary values like appearance, or how much money they have, or how much more IQ they can have, or whatever, you might want to consider whether it’s time to look a bit deeper and make sure you’re actually living your life congruent with values and seeking partners who you can actually forge a future with. No you might not have ended up with the people who you’ve cast aside for what on reflection may seem silly reasons or certainly not the life or death you thought they were back then, but each dating experience is actually an opportunity to positively learn about what you would like to find in another person and even understanding yourself (your values).
If you never discover because you’re too busy scoping out the market and being dissatisfied, how can you truly evaluate something?
Next thing the whole evening has gone by and you’ve not really watched anything.
Then you think something that you skipped over earlier and then you end up feeling dissatisfied about not choosing that as well.