I was at my godson's birth, and we've been at all of each other's births since then. I believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt. It's hard to write when you're happy because you just want to be in it.We've worked through it and talked a lot about it, and we are stronger because of it. JB: So you were holding yourself accountable for a choice that didn't turn out to be a mistake, but that you could've handled differently. There is a bit of creative license in the song as well, other things that aren't necessarily about that. It's fleeting, and when you start picking it apart, you're going to lose the joy and effervescence of it.JB: Speaking of songs that seem tied to specific experiences, I've always loved "Adia." I must've been thirteen the first time I heard it, and it was one of the first songs I ever encountered that sounded like it was about a friendship between women.You've it's about the way you always feel responsible for other people. Ash was the drummer in my band, and we came home from tour and to a situation where we were all living together — my best friend, Ash, me, and my boyfriend who I was breaking up with.There's a release in it, too, because it's something that I've found a way through.
I discovered that she was a songwriter who could dig deep into love and friendship, two kinds of relationships I wouldn't understand well until years later.
It's very cathartic, because it's a lot of sorting through my own emotions.
JB: Does performing the songs have a similar effect? The act of playing music, especially a song that has real meaning to me — there's joy in it, even if the song is sad.
SM: I've always been hesitant to tell the true meaning behind that song because it doesn't paint me in the nicest light, but I'll tell you: I slept with — I fell in love with — my best friend's ex. None of us were actually together anymore, but we were all in the same place.
Ash and I ended up going out because we didn't want to be in the house.