She's recently come out of a bad relationship which means that I could frighten her away by coming over too strong. " And stop the whole being buddie buddie with chicks.So how do I take things slowly w/o showing lack of interest and becoming 'just another friend'? They all need a guy that will give them attention and listen to everything they have to say for advice. Dont tell them you can help and change their world.not really sexual relations, although SOME form of sexual relations (genuine kissing) is required to not be a friend. If you two are mutually comfortable having a makeout session, then you are not in the friends zone.So begs the question -- physically or meshing lives? If you're scared of sex-too-early, just don't cross 2nd base for a while.I refuse to date men who have not even been single for a good year. Now there's a theory more people should subscribe to. Do yourself a favor, tread at a pace that seems comfortable for both of you, it should feel natural, not forced.
Recently I have just started seeing someone (3rd date) and I am sensing that I may be coming over waay too strong as I want to avoid end up in the situation that I was in, in the past.Most women like that are out with guys like YOU to keep them entertained while they still have that 'bad relationship' still tweaking around in their heads. it's about them needing a bit of ego stroking to prove that they still 'have it' while they lick their wounds over the one they're still pining over. I find people in these situations to simply be trainwrecks. Maybe she'll be creeped out, but maybe she'll warm up to the sensation...it's worked like a charm for me.They're NOT going to fall in love with you, no matter WHAT type strategy you think you should take at this time. Go find somebody who's not 'just recently' been in anything.... I know when I left my x husband, I was not at ALL ready to meet anyone for a good year or two. Then you're "more than just friends" (you're already lightly sampling the goods) but not yet having full-on intercourse.The willingness to back off is more important than not coming on too strong in the first place, I believe.Two ways to "take things slow" or "take things fast":(a) Physically (kiss, making out, sex, etc)(b) Meshing lives (bringing one another to events w/ their friends, meeting family, family events, weddings, etc)Meshing lives (b) or lack thereof, is REALLY the indicators of things going fast or slow... How "far" you go isn't really an indicator of how fast a relationship is developing (that's a myth).