In her highly influential work, Wendy Holloway (1989) identified three discourses governing contemporary heterosexuality (which produce different subject positions and types of power for men and women): the male sexual drive discourse, the have/hold discourse, and the permissive discourse.
The male sexual drive discourse posits that men are driven by a biological necessity to procure and engage in heterosex, and once aroused, must experience sexual release via coitus and orgasm.
–88% Yes' What do you find sexiest in a man' – Confidence, chest, caring, cleanliness, butt/bottom, a brain, eyes, voice, good teeth, pesonality, smile, honesty, passion, humour & wrists!
' What do you find sexiest in a woman' – Smile, figure, shapely bum, attitude, being a lady, all the body parts!
Key findings – 38% Female respondents62% Male respondents14% Aged 45-5437% Aged 55-6439% Aged 65-748% Aged over 7594% Heterosexual1% Homosexual5% Bisexual The median number of partners is 4. 25% of respondents have had 1 partner.25% of respondents have had 12 partners. –9% think they're pretty amazing37% think they're quite good40% think about average11% think they're not the best3% think that they have a long way to go Would your partner say that you are good in bed?
Favourite time for having sex – 32% early morning28% evening24% night Is kissing more intimate than sex? – 17% – ' They'd say I'm amazing'8.5% – They'd say I'm not the best or I'm quite bad How old were you when you lost your virginity? – 65% Yes Have you ever had sex with someone 10 years older or younger?
– 92% Very important or extremely important 2% Not that important Do you think intimacy and sex can be kept alive with the same partner over many years?
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' –Anywhere without causing offence, bed, back seat of a car, bathroom, forbidden areas, spa pool, shower, kitchen beach, outdoors, under the stairs.' Favourite position?
' – 69, doggy, cowgirl, missionary, side by side, spooning' Least favourite position? Its good to see these sex surveys as I feel we need to open up far more about sex.