You can’t know unless you begin communicating with each other.There are couples who work together to reignite the “spark” that has faded.Those of you with cable will probably know that Showtime’s second season of Polyamory: Married and Dating started in August.Based on early reports of “more diversity,” and the producer talking to “families from the heartland,” I had had higher hopes for this season than last.I haven’t seen the show myself yet (viewing parties are being scheduled!), but I have heard from some of my friends, and frankly, they weren’t impressed.That seems unfair, and it does not honor the relationship you have shared these many years.It may be that he also feels unsatisfied and doesn’t know what to do about it.
There are others who decide that separation or divorce is the best option for them.
I do love my husband, always have, but I don't think I'm in love with him. I know we have it better than some long-time couples—we get along, don't really fight much, we've raised great kids who treat us with respect, and we're in good shape financially as our retirement years near.
So maybe I should just be happy with what I have ... —To Leave or Not to Leave Submit Your Own Question to a Therapist Before I jump straight to the heart of your question—to divorce or to not divorce—I’d like to take a moment and encourage you to consider some intermediate steps.
but I can't seem to escape this feeling that there's something more than this, and I'm seeing time slip-sliding away. What I hear you saying is that while you love your husband, have a generally positive relationship, and are companionable, you feel as if there is something missing from your relationship, something you do not want to do without for the rest of your life. What might it be like to open a dialogue that celebrates the time that you’ve had together and opens up a discussion about what you each want for your remaining years?
If you haven’t let your husband know that you aren’t satisfied with the status quo, you have not given him, nor you, an opportunity to see if your relationship can change.