While there’s always a winner in chess, in a relationship if all you do is protect the queen (i.e.yourself), you’ll surely find yourself without a king – maybe sooner than you think. Unless you’re a manipulative sociopath (fingers crossed you’re not), playing games is not your natural reaction or instinct about everything related to the opposite sex.Doing this with a mate or potential mate could unintentionally have the opposite effect. As is evident with all of the earlier reasons you need to stop playing games, you can’t manipulate love or people into falling in love or feeling the way you want them to feel.It’s unfortunate, but if you like a guy, you’re going to have to just buckle up and get ready for the ride. If you knew that a guy would give you butterflies on Tuesday at 4pm, the feeling wouldn’t be as precious, would it?Here are 8 reasons why you need to forfeit and allow yourself to live in the moment.In relationships, there should be no winners or losers.For example: Below is a list of verses you can look up and apply to any dating relationship.Get to know these verses, treat others well today, and pray that the Lord will guide you when you begin to date.
Come on, we’ve all heard Oprah: a relationship can’t survive if you aren’t being your authentic self, and what’s less authentic than being underhanded? When you stop playing games, the attraction might not be there. Whenever you’re presenting a false sense of self, you run the greater risk of your relationship not working when you finally let the guard down and are yourself. The thing about games – especially when they don’t come with a pair of dice, board, and instruction book – is that the rules can change at any given time.
Having some sort of guide may seem comforting, but in fact it’s counter-productive. The only thing dating has in common with a game are the elements of risk and chance.
In order to have a healthy, successful, adult relationship, you have to stop playing games.
When you do this, you’re ignoring your intuition for the sake of some rule you think you’re supposed to follow about how long it should be before you text a guy back or whatever the case may be.
We have a gut for a reason and when we ignore it, things rarely work out. You’re supposed to put out there what you want to receive back.