You can also try them with people you already know well—friends, family members, even long-term partners—to deepen your ties. I plan on printing two copies of this out and pulling it out on my wife and I's next date night.Each of you should take a turn answering each question. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? We've been together 26 years and I welcome (and even need) to have the chance to connect with her on new levels.It's easy to get busy in life and neglect the most important relationship you have.If you really have an interest in sharing these questions with your husband (which is why I assume you read the article), maybe try a non-typical approach to the typical male attitude. Many males respond good to a "reward for participation" deal, and may find that opening up, even a little, is the real reward. I'm probably revealing a lot about my own insecurities through my reactions here :) Which in itself is interesting for me. We did get about halfway through the questions and it was very helpful. Each time I go on a date with my bf, I'm going to pick one and keep it in mind. I guess the answer to that question depends a lot on the reasons behind what you describe as his reticence. It takes only 45 minutes and 36 questions to outwit mother nature! If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose? But the questions are designed to override evolution, the unconscious influence of pheremones and the complementary immune responses of compatible couples--not to mention involuntary physical attraction and repulsion.
For example, I am thinking of going through this exercise with a man I have known now for 15 months who tends to be reticent about talking about his past or feelings. So I know this is a month later, but I just happened on your article now - and actually I'm really interested to know whether you've done this with the man you mention, and if so, how it went?
If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Or you might want to use it to deepen intimacy later.
But sometimes in real life we want to slow the process down.
At long last the secret of ratcheting up intimacy is revealed! Perhaps my brain is starved of oxygen or else the feeling of hypoxia is a testament to the efficiency of this method. You don't really believe your interlocutor is going to stop after 36, do you? I really don't feel that this list of questions would necessarily make me feel good about the other person or feel closer to them.
If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? Take four minutes and tell you partner your life story in as much detail as possible. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be? If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? Is there something that you've dreamt of doing for a long time? One or two questions per get together should work, more if I'm really interested in developing an intimate relationship with the man. Having that insight would allow trust to be initiated and built upon and lead to quicker and more self exposure.