Everyone wonders just how much information to include in an online dating profile, and people with disabilities are no different.On Reddit, we’ve seen this subject matter pop up a lot in a few subreddits: Should you post pictures of yourself in a wheelchair?However, when my RA isn’t flaring I can mostly pass for non-disabled so when I was online dating I struggled with whether to put it in my profile.I ultimately decided to not include it but that led the the next problem of when I should disclose. I felt bringing it up during the first date would suggest to the other person that I was really hung-up on it and that it would seem like a bigger deal than it is.” “I did not include any pictures of me in my wheelchair because I have been made to feel uncomfortable by people who fetish-ize people with disabilities.Be completely blunt “I am very upfront about my disability, my profile pic is of me in my wheelchair and I always make sure guys know what they are getting into before meeting me.Yes, my forwardness might detract potential dates, but it saves that awkward conversation.” 4.There’s nothing wrong with a disability, and you should be happy with yourself!
But these relationships seldom work out, says Carlson, who dove into a shallow pond at the age of instantly shattering her spine.“You don’t want someone in a romantic relationship to be your caregiver.Your date might believe he or she wants to do that, but eventually that person’s going to be sick of it,” explains Carlson, who’s fashioned a successful career as a writer and blogger.Or Manhattanite Lauren Ruotolo, who has Mc Cune-Albright Syndrome, a rare genetic disorder that makes her body so fragile that, as a baby, she broke a femur rolling over in bed. “It’s definitely harder for people who are disabled because of the insecurities they have about someone looking at them.” So what are the secrets these possibly unexpected dating successes have to share? Character comes in all sorts of containers: fat and thin, short and tall, female and male, young and old.Sometimes it comes in a “broken” container — one that goes about in a wheelchair or on crutches. “When people meet me, sometimes they say, ‘Oh my God, she’s disabled,’” says Ruotolo, who stands (with help from her constant companions, a pair of crutches) a little over four-foot-two in her Jimmy Choos — hence the title of her memoir, Unstoppable in Stilettos.