You must be the one limiting your time on the web and setting tighter standards on the films you enjoy as a family, and you must be the one making sure you are part of an accountability group. After stumbling upon his father’s magazine under his Dad’s bed in first grade, Fred struggled with pornographic materials for the next twenty years or so.
As long as she is the one nagging you to get these things done, she will never feel a sense of trust because she will always feel that you are doing these things because you have to, and not because you want to in your heart. Through his books Fred brings the years of practical wisdom he learned about overcoming lust and restoring broken trust.
She can forgive me over and over again, even if I never ask her to do so. Brenda can only genuinely trust me when she has full confidence in my faithfulness when she’s not around. You need to face this responsibility like a Christian man. Rhonda’s words speak volumes to all husbands: “My biggest fear is what I don’t know or how deep his sexual sin is.
She can also commit her heart faithfully to me no matter how adulterous my heart may grow in return. Only one thing can bring that confidence—my consistent, faithful actions. About two years ago, we were building a house and living with my parents since the house we were living in sold and we didn’t want to rent if we didn’t have to.
For instance, if you don’t like to read, but she needs you to read as a sign of commitment from you, you need to read it or listen to the audio version of the book.Our wives can do some things in the relationship without our help, of course.For instance, Brenda can love me simply by choosing to do so, no matter how badly I treat her or betray her. There will be no trust until you become trustworthy, which means she’ll need at least three things from you: These go a long way towards rebuilding trust by eliminating fear.Each of you is responsible for bringing one of the ingredients to the table. Becoming trustworthy will require an immense character change on his part, and that’s no small task.On your end, trusting your husband again will require obedience and submission to God, in spite of your scars. To rebuild trust, the husband must act decisively to become trustworthy again.