In the end, we both agreed it seemed like a good decision.
He started to become distant over the summer but I wrote it off as a phase.
You were the out-of-town girl – the perfect girlfriend, really. It’s easy to see a woman who doesn’t require more than a text a week.
All the affection, none of the drama or maintenance. Men do what’s convenient and easy and selfish, until they have any responsibilities. Once you demand more and he balks, you already have your answer.
In fact, if you didn’t move 1500 miles to be with him, he probably would have dumped you by now. When he tells you that it’s a misunderstanding, that he’s been busy, that he really loves you, let him know that you understand, but this is your well-considered decision.
I must admit to being a little mystified about why someone would move 1500 miles for a casual relationship.
And that’s not a responsibility he wanted to assume.
In fact, I’d bet if you replayed your pre-move conversations, you’d remember him saying something to that effect: “Hey, you know nothing’s going to change when you move out here.
But make no mistake: his actions are saying loudly what his words cannot. Pining away waiting for him to come around is just slowly peeling off the Band-Aid. This creates a very clear choice: if he chases after you HARD (and that’s up for you to determine), you might end up with a devoted boyfriend.
So now that you have your answer, what is there to learn from this situation? If not, you’ve been given your freedom to create the love life that you deserve, not this bullshit, game-playing, heart-wrenching drama he’s putting you through.