Not dating is also an option, but even then, people ought to know what your standards are.
(See also obstacle #3.) This is a tough one, because the culture of much of the world is following a trend in which boy-girl interactions among teens center around “relationships.” So if you tell people you went on a date with Person A one week and then went on a date with Person B a couple weeks later, they might think that you’re cheating on Person A or that you’re just promiscuous. Well, you could try to educate people and change their attitudes and judgments (maybe show them the “Dating” section in ), or you could go ahead and date the way you’ve been counseled to date and just ignore everyone else’s comments.
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Of course, girls can occasionally ask guys on dates too, so you may consider getting together with other young women to organize a group date—just to get the ball rolling.
No matter what, your value as a child of God is eternal and has nothing to do with whether you’re being asked out on dates.
As you counsel with your parents, leaders, and your Heavenly Father, you’ll be guided to make good decisions.
“When you are old enough, you ought to start dating.
One thing is certain: you should make sure everyone knows what your standards are, regardless of whether you date or not. Then, if you decide to date, people will be less likely to whisper. Sometimes it seems that there aren’t a lot of guys who are asking girls on dates or that only certain girls are getting asked out.
Whatever you do, don’t ever let these thoughts affect your feelings of self-worth.
QUESTION: A younger relative of mine was recently seriously rebuffed by his lady friend (they are both in their 30's) for asking if he could kiss her.
They have been seeing each other very seriously for a while, and he has wanted some indication of her affection for him. HE SAID: Affection within a dating relationship will always be a much disputed and often heated debate.