If you’re in your 20’s right now, I’m sending you a big hug and kiss, and telling you to try not to change your attitude to life and love. There are so many hoops to jump through, and walls to climb over. I feel like you’re judging and evaluating everything I say. You give a guy your phone number and suddenly all hell breaks loose. What happened to boy and girl falling in love without all the hassle? so I may do better in the Northeast myself, Colleen... The page said it would be shut down unless a new organizer took it over.
I feel like you’re frisking me, and checking my suitcase for a weapon. But, then again, I'm a blue dot in a very red state... And the events he posted were to meet at a Williams Sonoma store, wear red, and ask "meetup? Anyways, I clicked on the group page to other day to see if it had attracted any other members..he has left his own group!
It was almost like my post-separation job; something I needed to get out of my system for lack of experience.
I know what I want, and it's in line with what I have to offer. I've dated more since I separated than in my entire pre-marriage existence (WAY more).
Do you really want to know why dating is so hard for you? But he's now out which is what meetup charges organizers to run a group for 6 months. He has now joined all of the co-ed groups that I belong to! (In fact, that blog was where I discovered DW; he had a post on there.) I just had not checked out it out today.
They spend their time talking about what they’re going to become, what life is all about, and before you know it, they find themselves head over heels in love. All of you in your 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and above reading this… Why is it so hard to connect with you on a deep level? My guess is someone saw it and thought it sounded suspicious and reported it to meetup, or he got embarrassed.
Women, I think, are also more inclined to get help, such therapy, after a particularly devastating break-up. I avoid guys like that like the plague now, and like you, one of my first instincts is to seek emotional readiness in a man I might date. I've mentioned that myself on previous threads--women will usually take some time at the end of a relationship to get their bearings back and get over it.
I'm happy and busy with a career, teenage kids, pets, friends, hobbies, etc.
I'm in sales; I can talk for hours to a fire hydrant and have a decent enough time, but I'm sure not dating it.
As soon as I start hearing them trash the ex, I get very cautious. Well, the South ain't exactly bursting with great men, either Collen. A friend's friend was single until she moved to Colorado and was married within a couple of years.
Ya and another thing, even if a guy has a lot of baggage, most women are turned off by a man that has less dating and relationship experience than they do it seems, they want a man that is desired by other women Yeah, I've dated a couple of "emotionally unavailable" guys myself. But, I usually will tell a funny story or mention something he and I did that I enjoyed..know...positive stuff. no need to get into the WHYS on the first or second date. From what I've heard, Colorado and the surrounding states have way more men than women.