So this goes out to all my boys out there at places like Harvard, Princeton, Yale, Stanford, MIT, Columbia, Duke, Swarthmore, Penn, Cornell, Berkeley, Brown, Dartmouth, Oxford, and Cambridge.
To all you who work at the likes of Google, Amazon, Microsoft, D. Shaw, Mc Kinsey -- all the geeks, nerds, grad students, techies, hackers, engineers and gadgeteers.
That's also when my career as a professional virgin came to an end. Mom, dad, the sex-ed teacher - none of them had taught me any of this stuff. People only love us for who you are, not who we pretend to be.
To understate things, I was a late bloomer in the realm of romance. This is a serious omission, since our relationships with others are the biggest determinants of happiness in our lives. I know it's fashionable amidst the smart set to be dissatisfied with yourself and to keep striving for more, bigger, best.
So seek out some good dating resources and put in the same amount of zealous effort that you've put into your achievements all your life, and you will be rewarded.
Evolution decrees that in the mating dance, the male pursues and the female is pursued. So be less interested in her than she is in you, or at least pretend you are, so she has a chance to move towards . It's not some kind of god-given talent that you're either born with or without.
On date #3, remind her of the "third date rule." This is the big corollary of rule #7. If you can fake that you've got it made." Hey, in the end they all want to be dominated.
You did a lot of work and you're tired, and you have important work to do tomorrow.
If you call and she's not available, act real hurt, make it seem like you will end the relationship if she does this a lot. It is nice to date easy chicks and all and get laid on the first date, but some of the hottest ones like to wait a date.
However, if she doesn't at least give you a blowjob by date #2, #3 at the latest, there are better investments out there.
And it wouldn't be a stretch to say that most people's lives revolve around their primary love relationship. However, women will tell you that there's nothing more attractive in a man than self-acceptance (which is the same as complacency).
So towards the end of med school, I started to read some pertinent books and hanging out with guys savvier than me in this dating realm.