For those who are abused, it is important to remember, the abuse received seldom has anything to do with them. One of the hardest things to realize is one has little to no influence on making deep or lasting changes in the abuser.
Even if the abusers wants to change, they seldom want to put any real effort towards changing. They stick around hoping they can fix things and often end up blaming themselves for the state of the relationship.
While they may have some positive qualities, they hold toxic and unrealistic expectations which cannot be meet.
Those who try to meet these expectations will end up feeling like a failure because it is a game they cannot win.
You can’t begin living life in a new way if any part of you holds on to the old ways.
But you do and you must find it within yourself to take the first steps.
Work with a professional who can help you sort things out, raise your self esteem and assist you to release old negative emotions.
Some carry these events for years, even their entire lives, because they didn’t know how to release these events.
If you are in an abusive environment, the first step is to get out.