The problem is that guys know a woman’s bluff from a mile away…and the moment you start bluffing about how much you’re willing to tolerate, he knows you’ll tolerate just about anything. Because if you’re afraid enough to lie about your limits, then it’s pretty likely that you don’t actually have limits you’re willing to enforce. Fear that this guy is the one true love of their life.Most aren’t even consciously aware of those feelings.But if you can see past your own hurts and desires, you’ll see men everywhere trying to fill emotional voids through their actions and achievements.When men act out in whatever way they act out, you’ll find what I just described at the heart of the matter: a deep feeling of separateness, insignificance and undesirability.Most guys would never admit to feeling anything like that.Some people have voids inside them and they forever try to fill them – with having other people desire them, with sex, with power, with money, etc.
I had a girlfriend who was very flirtatious by nature.
I mean, all of his sexual needs are completely met by you, right? And all of his emotional needs are met by you, so it can’t be that he enjoys the ego boost of feeling desired by a woman…
My point in all this is that if you believe that you’re meeting all his needs, you will be blind to areas where the relationship needs to grow.
You chose him – you knew what kind of an animal he was when you started going out.
It’s not like one morning he just went out and started having sexy flirtations with other women all of a sudden and you were shocked. but secretly you hoped and believed that he would change for you.