“The studies disturb me, and there are small things to do to keep the tradition alive but make it our own,” she says.
And the recent rise of anti-Semitism across Europe is especially troubling to her, even thought it’s not prevalent in New York.
Aside from Davis’ Shabbat model, there are others trying to reinvent the process.
Train Spottings uses matchmakers, known as ‘conductors,’ who scope the New York City Subway scene for singles to match with clients.
Davis incorporates bits of tradition into each dinner she hosts, whether it’s a group of modern Orthodox Jews or, what’s more common, a group of Secular ones.This is “Shabatness,” an invite-only service that sets up young Jewish professionals over Shabbat dinners.Davis is quite rare, a matchmaker who does things the artisanal way, setting up singles through dinner parties, not apps or algorithms.The crowd is hushed as Erin Davis a 30-year-old, waif-like blond, our host for the night, announces it’s time for ice breakers, where we’ll read funny and ironic facts about each other and guess who it could be.Later I’ll leave after arranging a date with an adorable man handpicked by Davis whom my mother would kvell—ahem, gush—over.