Here's what I've learned about writing a good ad: 1.
Props that make you feel soulful, frisky, and fascinating help you make those claims for yourself in your ad. It might sound obvious, but be sure to post a terrific photo of yourself. More to the point: I wanted to attract a man who appreciated subtlety.
A woman I know snagged a boyfriend when she described her ideal job as a combination of circus performer and archaeologist. Unless you know for sure that you only want to meet, say, a nonsmoking Portuguese-speaking dentist, go easy on the list of qualities he must have.
Most of the LGBTQ sites I write for want identity pieces that discuss the untold stories of what it’s like to be gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, genderqueer, sexually fluid, polyamorous, etc. Buzzfeed LGBT pays 0-300 an article, and they’re looking for powerful, emotional, personal pieces that pull at your heart. They’re no longer “Old Cosmo” and don’t want pieces about how to please your man. Submissions should be complete between 1,500 and 1,700 words. Headshots work, but a potential date also wants to see the rest of you. And a photo without an accompanying detailed story is likely to preclude anyone from selecting you thoughtfully. Attention to Detail While I notice a woman's photo first, I also enjoy reading her story describing her 50-plus years of living and loving life. And there's no excuse for spelling or grammatical errors. What to Limit Your political attitude, while valid, need not be intolerant. Ken Solin is an author, lecturer and blogger who writes on the topic of families, relationships, dating and more from the perspective of a 50-plus. Have a friend take photos, and don't wear sunglasses or a hat, or stand in shadows. It suggests a lack of interest in the whole dating process. The Photo Professional photographs aren't necessary, but posting a cellphone photo taken at arm's length isn't cool, and using an old photo never makes for a pleasant surprise when you meet a date. Do the Work A profile that consistently states "I'll tell you later" rather than supplying answers to relevant questions is frequently passed by, no matter how good-looking the person in the photograph. Do not use a favorite old photo and a bio from a previous online attempt; that's not smart online dating.