I've never felt like this, so it's hard for me to turn my back on it just because they aren't happy with it. Coming from experience, it is really up to you if it is worth it. I feel ill about it all now and am deciding if I can, and will it always be like this. I want to be married and possibly have kids of my own. I don't want to be in the same place I am now a year from now and I'm really worried I will be. Guy, I appreciated reading the other post you send.
It will put a lot of strain on your relationship and sometimes it is EXTREMELY hard to deal with. But, I know my boyfriend is not staying at his ex's house. He was separated, living in separate places, for a little over a year.
It your happy right now, you should keep going with it. I feel like I am not included in the most important aspect of his and it hurts. I am an Asian, we don't believe in divorce and that sort of thing. I am in this dilemma as I am also not sure if we will have a good future together...he's hesitant to get married and not so sure of having another child.
Just remember that it is still the beginning and you might not end up with him anyway. Troe1113, I realize that the situations are not exactly the same, but you could be in for a long wait and not even know if he's going to involve you or not with his kids. We talk about it often but nothing has changed and he keeps telling me to be patient. I am 33 yrs old, never been married and want children of my own.
My situation is a little different because I have kids with the guy who also has an ex wife and son. What stinks is that I can sit here and tell you to have trust etc. The kids know about me and the two times we met he told me they really liked me.
It seems he's not sure how to bring me into their relationship.
Once the kids and I met (about 6 months into our relationship) we hit it off, and it's been great. But it always seemed like I was trying to get attention from him.
This is more about how long you want to wait rather than when he's supposed to decide. He was with his last gf for 5 years and never got married. I'm 29 with a man who is 42 years old with 3 kids (18,15,10).
The excuse well I got kids so youll always be second is lame.
The relationship you have with your kids is not the same as the one you have with your spouse.
If not its not going to work, so move on, life is to short to waste time on maybes and excuses. He is 9 years older, divorced 2 years ago with 2 kids (5 and 8) who live in different country. He does take me with him sometimes and his kids love me.
But the problem is I hate them more and more, feels like in not the one for him, not THE ONE.