Safe, comfortable relationships have the most potential to get boring and stale very quickly and fizzle out before you can work out if there’s any real potential.
The fastest way to kill any potential relationship is to take all the tension out of it.And if it doesn’t, you’re OK because you know that it just means you weren’t a match with that person.It doesn’t mean you’re flawed or damaged or bad or unlovable. Sometimes you’ll be able to see this, and sometimes the other person will have that clarity.You invest mental energy in making sure things go a certain way. I have been guilty of stressing over past relationships. Things started out fun and light, I got excited about the possibilities…and then became scared that my imagined future wouldn’t come to be…and then panic set in.From then on, the relationship was no longer enjoyable.