However, after repetitively facing the questions, the judgments, the shock, and the confused looks, I quickly transitioned from understanding to enraged.Since when did I live in a world where a boyfriend and girlfriend could not come from different backgrounds?So what happens when we enter into a relationship with someone who navigates by a wholly different set of stars?Dating is already complex, difficult, and messy, but dating someone of a different religion adds an entirely new set of challenges.I mean, Democrats date Republicans, people from different nationalities and different races can still be in love, so why was it so unfathomable that I, a non-member, could be interested in dating a Mormon? Non-Mormon would lead to a world of difference between us.Though I was a tattooed coffee drinker with a dirty mouth, and he said things like “holy cow” and drank Mountain Dew, we didn’t have too many differences between us besides a religious title.Though I knew that these people had no right to make judgments about my relationship and how we as a couple made things work, sometimes it was hard to simply brush off these comments.
Was it impossible to be happy with someone who had a different belief system than you?
Despite the fact that he was Mormon and I was not, we held many similar views on matters like alcohol, drugs, shared similar stances on political issues, and even agreed on equality for gay couples nationwide.
Yet, these outside judgers never stopped to consider that perhaps we might have beliefs outside the realms of our religious circles.
Every assumption we hold about how the world works is filtered through our faith, giving us a coherent worldview that informs our every decision.
These are deeply held values that guide our very lives, just as the stars did for the ancient sailors.