It’s a bitter pill for many women 40 and over to swallow.
Men in their age range probably aren’t looking for any kind of a formal commitment.
Maybe when I’m older and there are fewer issues that might interfere like sex drives and career goals.
Right now, I’m focused more on my own individual life plan than anything else.
The guy in the first example could tell himself that the men succeeding where he had failed were “losers.” We don’t really require that this criteria be met.
I know people will say I’m being negative or that I’ve given up.
I haven’t given up on having a relationship or on love or anything of that kind.
So a man doesn’t have to be “well educated.” (Though I do prefer he have at least one degree.) Basically, all the things I considered important in my thirties don’t really factor in to my decisions anymore. owning and financial security don’t really play in to my decision any more.
Is he happy and an honest/kind person, am I attracted to him, can he support himself. At our He Said/She Said event the other night, one man of 40 asked whether the fact he was 25K in debt as well as had a mortgage to pay was going to be a deal breaker for a woman.