Someone who will also help you obtain skills, so in the future you will not find yourself in the same situation again.Nothing changes unless you give yourself a chance to change.As life progresses, situations associated to past abuse become more difficult to handle.Replaying scenarios over and over will only have the mind reliving negative experiences again and again, only prolonging the suffering.If you are constantly feeling these emotions, they have a hold on you.You can’t begin living life in a new way if any part of you holds on to the old ways.It very often contributes to PTSD, anxiety and OCD.Since abuse can touch a person at the core of their mental and emotional abilities, it can be a sensitive subject to approach.
Those who try to meet these expectations will end up feeling like a failure because it is a game they cannot win.
Every deserves the opportunity to allow themselves to change. The next step is to get out of the abusive relationship. It’s hard to let go of traumatic memories, raise self confidence and self esteem and move forward with life again if someone is still holding you down.
While it is not always easy to do, you have to decide it’s time to move on, to put your needs front and center.
For those who are abused, it is important to remember, the abuse received seldom has anything to do with them. One of the hardest things to realize is one has little to no influence on making deep or lasting changes in the abuser.
Even if the abusers wants to change, they seldom want to put any real effort towards changing. They stick around hoping they can fix things and often end up blaming themselves for the state of the relationship.