The mentor, Gabe remembered, was a gorgeous, gay man of size. "It's such a nice feeling, but it's unfortunate that that had to be such a surprise to me." Robert Lopez had similar disbeliefs about the trajectory of his life.
Lopez began to gain weight rapidly when he was about 8 years old.
"When you date girls, it's not such a hang-up to be overweight," Colón told In fact, Colón was surprised the first time he stepped foot into a mainstream white gay bar.
There was a pervading culture of slim body worship that turned him off.
Colón described the first time he was with a person who appreciated his size.
"I didn't have to keep my wife beater on," he said. So I really felt like I was being made love to for who I was entirely and for more than just my sexual organs.
By the time he came out at 14, his family accepted him, and he was happy, except for the nagging issue of his weight.I sent my very first shirtless selfie to a friend of mine during the holiday season.We had been texting for a week or so and as the texts evolved, we showed less clothing and more skin, but I was reticent to lose my shirt. I'm pretty sure if you split my weight in two, you might get two skinny-but-not-too-skinny people.To really make love to someone is to enjoy every single inch of them." Raul Quintero spoke to me about what happens when the search for that feeling of being appreciated for your size can go to extremes.Quintero spent a few months in gainer and feeder culture, where men worship men with big bellies, and some go to extremes to gain weight.