Pornography use isn’t a new phenomenon, but it is growing in incidence due to the Internet.It is even rampant in the clergy: 51% of pastors say cyber-porn is a temptation that they could give in to, and 37% say it is currently a problem for them (Christianity Today, Leadership Survey, 12/2001).Use, Abuse, and Addiction Defined There are differences between the use and abuse of pornography and addiction to pornography.Use is when someone engages in an activity that can be stopped at will., you can now have Mr Grey saying naughty things to you all day long on Facebook Messenger.As soon as I heard about this, I obviously had to chat with him.It is not uncommon for a husband to ask his wife to do things during their lovemaking that he has seen in porn and push her to be sexier or more aggressive, passive, or provocative.
Just having their husbands look at porn makes most women uncomfortable.
Men justify their behavior by saying, “All men do it.
It isn’t a big deal.” Men have a different reaction when their wives look at porn: Some find it sexually exciting, and others don’t like it, especially if the sexual relationship in the marriage is absent. Both men and women feel pressure regarding their sexual performance when they know their spouses are looking at porn.
A Focus on the Family poll (October 1, 2003) found that 47% of the families they surveyed said that pornography is a problem in their homes. Thirty-four percent of female readers of Today’s Christian Woman’s online newsletter (Fall, 2003) admitted to looking at pornography.
Jesus said “that anyone who looks at a woman [or man] lustfully has already committed adultery with her [or him] in his heart” (Matthew ).