Actually, this language of God’s will can often be a pious guise for fearful indecisiveness.
Be Careful of Defrauding Your Girlfriend But merely continuing a romantic relationship is no necessary sign to your girlfriend that marriage is really on the horizon.
I’ve seen far too many Christian men tow their girlfriend along in relational haze, neglecting to provide them with any certainty that their current dating excursion will eventually lead to marriage.
Men, when you indulge in this passive approach to dating, you will soon be guilty of defrauding your girlfriend.
That is, by continuing to enjoy the benefits of the relationship—companionship, emotional intimacy, the delicate joys of romance—without clear intentions and solid plans to bring that relationship to a fitting consummation (marriage), you have become a deceiver. Because by your reluctance to express and act on your intentions, you are giving the impression that this relationship is moving directly toward marriage when you are actually just driving in circles.
Men, to lead in a romantic relationship means, at basic, that you are dating with the express intention of determining whether or not you and your girlfriend should get married. If not, then you are not ready to enter into a romantic relationship? Because the most important aspect of your life is presently in question.
I will discuss these principles in a series of posts.While not as controversial as it once was (as far as I can tell), the question of whether Christians should “date” or “court” is still a hot topic within the larger Church.I do not intend to enter that debate directly here.This is not to suggest that it is wrong, in every circumstance, for a woman to take the first step; what matters is not so much who takes the first step, but whether or not the man initiates the relationship from that point on.What does it mean to initiate a romantic relationship?