Joshua Harris @Harris Josh @elizabethesther I’m sorry.And I’m planning to dig into that in the next year or two. for the first time when I was 14 years old, and immediately commenced shaming myself for my schoolgirl crushes.Several years ago, even conservative evangelical World Magazine published an article critical of the impact Harris’s seminal book has had on the relationship culture of an entire generation of evangelical young people. It has been nearly two decades since he published his book, and in that time he has married, had children, pastored a church, and weathered a denomination sex abuse scandal that threatened to take his congregation down with it.It is likely this last event that set him on his path toward seminary.Josh published his career-making book, , in 1997, when he was only 21.His book had a huge impact on not only the Christian homeschool movement but also evangelicalism more broadly, and frankly, messed a lot of things up for a lot of us growing up in that culture.Eric and Jennys dating relationship had started out innocently? Soon afterward they broke up, discouraged and hurt. But both came to him separately and expressed emotional trauma and guilt over past memories. Some of us had made the same mistake or watched it happen in the lives of our friends. We wanted the pastor to tell us what we were supposed to do instead.
Dating around became akin to sleeping around, and both were seen as practice for divorce, which of course was bad, bad, I am of course curious why the book is still being sold, and without any caveat.
He seemed to think that Eric and Jenny should have had more respect for each other and more self-control.
Although this pastor encouraged a different outcome saving sex for marriage he didnt offer a different practice. Head out on the same course as those who have fallen and hope that in the critical moment youll be able to stay in control?
The way Harris chose to respond was, of course, all him.
I so appreciate the complete lack of defensiveness, and the simple sympathy shown instead.