My friends enjoy that and they tell their friends they did it.But it's not like girls are ready for it—it's something they do when they're really drunk."Albert (his middle name), a good-looking 29-year-old who's fairly well-known in the music industry, says he asks the women he dates to have anal sex with him because it raises the level of intimacy in the relationship.
Those letters are now dwarfed by letters from women asking how to take it up the butt." Okay."Once a guy has anal sex, he's put on a pedestal by his peers," he says. ' At first they were like, ' No, it will hurt.' Then time after time of having sex with them they finally said okay.He claims he hasn't had much trouble getting women to agree to it. It hurt them the first time, but after that they always said they enjoyed it—if not a little, then a lot."For other men, the appeal of anal penetration is less the novelty—and the fact that it gives them a good story to tell over beers—and more the psychology."It's a myth that every straight man wants it and the women who give it up do just that," says Tristan Taormino, author of Dawn (her middle name), a 34-year-old married woman who lives in Ohio, first tried anal sex at her husband's suggestion, only to discover that she was much more into it than he was. She'd like to have it more often, but it's currently off the table."He's got more hang-ups about it than I do," Dawn says.